Tuesday, January 11, 2011
Recently we received an inquiry from a female member who is a bit confused about a certain connection she has with another Cache' Connections members. They've exchanged friendly messages on the website for two or three weeks, but they don't seem to be getting anywhere. This is a common occurrence, so we thought we'd share our advice to "Confused."
It seems that if a guy is interested, he will let you know by being more regular in his emails and also give you some idea he is interested by what he says. Although sometimes people are not sure what they want and keep the door open just in case they're wrong. My assumption is this is the case with ____. Since you seem pretty stumped with him and desire an answer or closure, it might be time to ask him where he stands .... maybe something like, "Do you see our relationship progressing in a romantic way or just remaining friends?" This would enable you to lay it down or go forward. My guess is that he's looking at it as more of a friendship, but see what he says.
Cache' Connections is all about intentional dating, which goes for both the men and the women. In a perfect world, all men would take a strong lead as warriors of we princesses, always saving the day and letting us know we are safe and secure in his loving care and pursuit of our hearts. (Dreamy, huh?) Unfortunately, this fallen world is far less than perfect. (Thank God for the hope of heaven!) So, due to mixed feelings, mixed matches, unrecognized scars of the heart and patterns of aimless behavior, confusion is inevitable when it comes to dating. However, there are steps we can take, and one of them is to have the boldness to step out and ask the direct questions so that you know where each of you stands in the relationship.
Another shameless plug but I can't help myself:
A lot of these questions are answered in the Christian Dating ... Redefined DVD produced by Cache' Connections. Dr. Stephen W. Simpson is an expert at relationships, especially dating. He frankly stated, "These are just things I wish someone would have told me when I was dating." Get your copy here and cast out the confusion!