Friday, January 21, 2011
Is Singleness an Epidemic?
We've been contacting a lot of single pastors and leaders, inviting them to take a look at our new DVD titled Christian Dating ... Redefined. One pastor replied that he felt our philosophies were too different to consider a partnership, and therefore didn't want to waste our time or resources. We had spoken with him a time or two in the past, and apparently used the word "epidemic," when in fact we should have used the word "phenomenon." With the singles population at its peak of 50%, it's something!
Here's what he had to say: ... we actually think that singleness is a completely legitimate way of life and that there is a really strong biblical position to be made out of some Paul’s teachings that make it equal to marriage in the NT. That being said, we want to be careful to walk this really fine line where we siphon out our own cultural bias that pulls us towards marriage from the single life. It feels like Cache sees marriage as the preferred Christian life. I am all for marriage and we are certainly addressing a host of reasons in our singles for singleness that are far from Gospel centered. But, that being said I would be remiss to replace that kind of thinking with another form of thinking that also seems a bit off.
Here's our reply: Thanks for the candid response. We certainly would agree that some people are gifted with singleness and are completely comfortable and satisfied in that role, and can be more focused in their service to the kingdom. However, we have found that, by and large, the majority of singles recognize that desire that God planted in their heart to have a mate. It is of utmost importance to Cache' Connections that singles be grounded in their walk with Christ first and foremost "and then all these things shall be added unto" them. This is substantiated in the DVD with the chapter titled "Get a Life Before You Get a Date." All of that being said, we don't wish to get into an argument about our philosophies, as we are pretty close, after all ...
What do you think? Epidemic or phenomenon? Or neither?