It's interesting to me that there is a steady stream of articles, books, questions, insights, etc. sent to Cache' Connections by those who have an interest in what we are doing. I don't think the topic of relationships is ever going to go out of style; even married people are sending fodder.
I especially like articles that prove my point. One pastor from Georgia sent me an article posted in USA Today yesterday titled "Men, women flip the script in gender expectation." It has some interesting statistics; some very interesting, some a bit disheartening. You can read the full article here.
What caught my attention was this post-note:
•Singles can fall in love with a friend. Seventy-one percent (of singles surveyed) fell in love with someone they did not initially find attractive after having great conversations or shared interests or both; 35% fell in love with someone even though they felt no sparks initially.
It's exactly what we've been talking about. Looks are not everything. Friendship first. Most importantly, keep an open mind about the choices you make.
Have a SUPER weekend!
~ Linda
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In the USA Today article, "It may be because marriage is more fragile that people may want to maintain their separateness, even within marriage,"
That's a really good point: men (and particularly) women are concerned with a loss of identity in today's culture. How do we as men and women obey God's Word, "the two shall become one", yet we don't become too enmeshed with one another?
The answers may be found at least in part in the concept of Boundaries (as is discussed by Cloud-Townsend). How aware and proactive do we need to be in order to ensure that our marriages are achieving a healthy balance between "oneness" and independence?
I would expect the statistics in the article to be somewhat different for Christian singles because Christian singles presumably aren't "hooking-up" as much as secular singles. If more Christian singles are waiting for sex until marriage, I would expect the percentage desiring marriage to be higher than for secular singles.
Also, what is the distinction between the 71% and the 35%? I am assuming that the 71% who fell in love with someone they did not initially find attractive didn't feel any sparks, either.
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