Monday, February 21, 2011
How can women boost men's confidence?
Life is full of conundrums, isn't it? Today's puzzle is about men - although I'm sure they all would say that women are the real puzzle.
Referring to the book titled, "For Women Only" again, it was a real eye opener when I read that most men are hiding a deep inner vulnerability and need constant affirmation (Chapter 3.) The puzzle is that while men want to be needed, single women have had to be their own leader and figure out how to do life without a man in it. I don't have all the answers, but I do know that God's design for marriage has never gone out of style. And if a woman wants to attract a man, he needs to see that there is room for him in her life.
So we posted a poll on Facebook on how women can boost men's confidence. Here are some of the ideas my very wise friends suggested:
Dave: Be a true partner.
John: find out what they are good at and tell them how good they are at doing it.
Johnny: Pray earnestly for them. Celebrate when they step out in faith to do something, regardless of the outcome. Withhold criticisms of anything, unless it is a life-or-death situation. Frequently mention how you made the right decision in the man that you picked, and make it personal by saying specific things you appreciate. Speak to them Scripture that shows that what they are doing, is what God wants them to be doing. If they acted in integrity, not taking the easy way out, speak a scripture to them and point out how their behavior matched the scripture.
Lisa: Listen to them.
Vicki: Encourage them at whatever they set out to do. Don't discourage them. Always be kind. Never fail to tell him you love him.
Olga: Remind them how much God Loves them!:)
Laura: Women may boost men's confidence by showing interest in the activities, ideas, or opinions in which they are involved. Not that we have to agree and definitely not faking our interest...it's a matter of respect and courtesy. If you truly want to be a part of his life, then be a part of his "world" by proactively engaging him in conversation that interests him.
Vicky: Make them feel needed even when you can do it yourself. Encourage him in the area he is best at and the areas he is struggling. Let him know that you are blessed to have him in your life. Truly listen to not just his words but his unspoken words and actions.
Cari: Encourage them A LOT no matter what it.
Laura: Listen to them and respect them...give them an opportunity to protect you and fix situations.
Laurie: Submit to their authority as the bible tells us to do in a respectful and loving way. We submit out of love not because we have to.
Les: just say YES! :o)
These ideas can be utilized in friendships, dating and marriage. 1 Thessalonians 5:11: Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing.