Thursday, February 10, 2011

Come on over?

From time to time we hear that singles have a first or second date at one of their homes, often for dinner and/or a movie. While on the surface this sounds ... nice ... we feel it can create too much temptation, unless there are other people present in the home. Also, generally speaking, it's best to get to know someone before you get into a situation where they could harm you. But in true Cache' Connections fashion, we took it to the streets to make sure we aren't being to prudish. Here are the results of a recent Facebook poll:

1. In my opinion, it seems a bit soon for that kind of date. That might make a good 3rd-4th date.

2. It's too soon to be doing that!

3. Totally agree, too soon. Even without what came out of last nights chat it is too soon!

4. I would never go to a guys house if he is there alone....that could lead to temptation and as Christians I think we need to avoid temptation.

5. I would NOT do a first date in his home. Always meet for the first few dates in public.

6. I agree. Meet somewhere neutral on that first date. It should be casual and somewhere to just chat and get to know each other a little bit.

7. Definitely meet in public a few times before you meet at each other's house. Then when you DO meet at a house hold have a group of friends have dinner with you too!

8. A 1st DATE?! Whoa, not this gal... And I love to cook!

9. Never.

10. I agree with ___'s comment...too soon. I spend time e-mailing a guy for awhile, before I give out my phone number. I only give out my cell # first. I think it's wise to meet in a public place for the first few dates.

11. One word: DANGEROUS!

I noticed that no men piped in. Would the poll shift?

~ Linda
Cache' Connections
p.s. Our "pulpit answer" can be found under Safety Tips on the website.


Anonymous said...

The only way a male stranger is coming into my home is if he's been hired to do an installation or a repair job!

Just because someone is cute and charming doesn't mean you should throw caution to the wind. Remember, wolves can come in sheep's clothing!

Anonymous said...

I'm a guy and I want to be above board with any woman that I'm getting to know. I want to have the highest respect for her and honor God and that includes avoiding situations that may be compromising. That includes not only each others homes, but avoiding "parking" with the car, secluded outdoor places, etc. The Bible tells us to: “Abstain from all appearance of evil.” I Thessalonians 5:22 KJV

In other words, if there is even a remote possibility that your behavior could be compromised, better to NOT go there!!! Sure, one can say "I'm strong, I won't do that in such a setting." Believe me, chances are you will do what you say you won't do.

Romans 7:15 (Amplified Bible)

15 For I do not understand my own actions [I am baffled, bewildered]. I do not practice or accomplish what I wish, but I do the very thing that I loathe [which my moral instinct condemns].

Play it on the safe side. Wait on and Trust in the Lord. You don't want to ruin a relationship that could result in marriage. Believe me, I have. I could have been married several times in the last 25 years, in other words, I could have been celebrating my 25th Wedding Anniversary by now. Save yourself the pain of a breakup due to sexual immorality. Save the physical expression of your love for someone within the context and commitment of will be very thankful to God that you did it HIS way!!!