Friday, March 11, 2011
Is a negative attitude holding you back?
Yesterday I spent a bit of time calling people who attended our recent 4-on-4 Connection Party in Orland Park. We like to ask for feedback from time to time so that we can continue to improve our methods and strategies. Most everyone is happy to render their opinion, and by and large the feedback is positive from the Christian singles who truly appreciate our efforts to connect them.
I spoke with one female, however, who didn't have one positive comment. She informed me there were 8 men there, when in fact I corrected her with a count of 16, which is just under 50%. (I was there, I should know, I wanted to say!) She even admitted that she came with a friend with no expectations of meeting anyone. She complained that she never meets men at events (how is that possible??) and then told me several tales of her past online dating experiences on free sites and one popular secular one. Her major complaint was that men wanted to meet before exchanging emails. While I can admit that would make most female online daters uncomfortable, I can think of worse things that could happen. As I continued to "drink from her fire hose," (which somehow included the fact that because she has daughters, she can't participate in online dating), it became obvious that the common factor in all of her tales was the main character, herself.
We are all subject to negative thinking, myself included. The enemy of our soul delights in our "poopy pants" attitude. I was reading a devotional on negative thinking just yesterday - hmmmm...
Joyce Meyer wrote, "We undermine Satan's attempt to establish a stronghold in our minds when we admit, "God, I'm a pessimistic person." That's the beginning. Then we cry out to the Holy Spirit to search our hearts. Jesus said of Him, "... He will convict and convince the world and bring demonstration to it about sin and about righteousness (uprightness of heart and right standing with God) and about judgment." (John 16:8) Too often, we read the word world and smile. Yes, that's for those sinners, those people who don't know Jesus. That's true, but it's only partially true, because we also live in the world.
We - God's people - need that conviction, as well. We need the Holy Spirit to probe deeply inside us and help us grasp why we're afflicted (my emphasis added) with negative thinking."
I believe Satan wants singles to be afflicted with negative thinking. He wants them to remain single and outside of community and relationships, which is God's design. We need to realize that the enemy of our souls is also the enemy of marriage. We encourage singles to prayerfully examine their hearts and attitudes, and ask God to bring light to their minds and new life to their hardened hearts. For many, it won't be easy. It may take some hard work and even professional help to uncover our soul wounds - we all have them. But as one who has been through such a process myself, I can attest that it's worth the hard work, expense and tears.
Genesis 50:20 But as for you, you meant evil against me; but God meant it for good, in order to bring it about as it is this day, to save many people alive.