Friday, March 25, 2011

From Single to Submissive: How do I do the girlfriend thing?

One of the tensions of being a single adult woman is that you've had to find your own way, support yourself, and figure out a lot of things for yourself. If you don't have much experience in dating relationships, it can be quite a challenge to figure out the new role of being submissive - or should you be? - to your guy.

I was just reminded of this tension myself yesterday when I couldn't figure out how to get the battery out of my mouse, and my husband was nowhere to be found to rescue his princess! As I've mentioned before, my husband, as most good husbands, thrive on being a hero to their women, and I believe it's a wise woman who lets him fill this role most of the time. Men are wired to be our providers, leaders and servers in the way of doing tasks that are typically handled by the "stronger vessel." But where does that leave the single lady, and the wife whose husband is nowhere to be found when the pickle jar needs to be opened? So, I guess the tension lives on.

Today I read an article in Boundless Magazine by Candice Watters that addresses this issue for a woman who is trying to figure out how to be submissive to her new guy. I'm sure many of you can relate and learn from this article titled "I Don't Want to Be a Bother." CLICK HERE for some great, godly advice.

~ Linda
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Anonymous said...

As a never-married in my 40s, this is a challenge for me. I have to keep in mind all that I CAN'T do so that I will be able to express those needs to a mate and look for that particular fit.

In terms of the day-to-day, I have to remind myself to take a stranger up on his offer to display chivalry-- even when I'd rather do for myself (example-- the opening of a door, being offered a seat on a train when I'd rather stand). At times, I've been more in my own head than recognizing that I have just chipped at a man's honor.

There's so little chilvary in today's society and I think we modern women are partially to blame!

Linda said...

We appreciate your comments Anonymous. That's great that your eyes have been opened to this touchy topic.

Anonymous said...

I guess you'll want to get a twitter icon to your blog. I just bookmarked this article, however I had to do this manually. Just my advice.

Kim said...

Anonymous... I can't find how to add a Twitter icon to blogger. Do you have info on this?