Monday, March 28, 2011

How will I ever choose the right one?

Whether we admit it or not, like it or not, we are a bunch of spoiled consumers. If we can all just agree on that point, we can move on to how to make better choices, from laundry detergent to life mate.

Today's blog is based off of another article recently posted in Focus on the Family's Webzine titled, "What If She's Not the Right One?" Upon reading this title, about four or five individuals popped into my mind who are suffering from this fear of making the right choice. Unfortunately, some singles tend to get stuck in the "shopping mode" when it comes to finding a mate. This is no surprise because the choices are so vast that they become overwhelmed and are never able to get to the check-out lane.

Editor David Lapp shares this study to exemplify this truth:

One study was set in a gourmet food store in an upscale community where, on weekends, the owners commonly set up sample tables of new items. When researchers set up a display featuring a line of exotic, high-quality jams, customers who came by could taste samples, and they were given a coupon for a dollar off if they bought a jar. In one condition of the study, six varieties of the jam were available for tasting. In another, 24 varieties were available. In either case, the entire set of 24 varieties was available for purchase. The large array of jams attracted more people to the table than the small array, though in both cases people tasted about the same number of jams on average. When it came to buying, however, a huge difference became evident. Thirty percent of the people exposed to the small array of jams actually bought a jar; only 3 percent of those exposed to the large array of jams did so.

Thinking way back myself, I remember having these thoughts and doubts: "What about all the other men in the world?" too before saying "I do." After 26 years of marriage, I've since learned that, once again, it's not about me. (Thank you Rick Warren for making that truth a part of my daily reminders.) Essentially, marriage is not about finding your own happiness, but it's about giving yourself away. Over time, "love" has a sneaky way of moving from a feeling to a choice. In short, it is more blessed to give than to receive. (Acts 20:35.) And choosing a mate is really about choosing the person that is worth pouring your life into. But David Lapp has much more to say about it, so CLICK HERE to read the full article.

Luke 6:38: Give, and it will be given to you. A good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over, will be poured into your lap. For with the measure you use, it will be measured to you."

Have a great week!

~ Linda
Cache' Connections

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

I gave EVERYTHING and gave up alot in my first marriage...literally poured myself into him. There is soooo much more than that.