There was some great advice offered in the chat last night. A gentleman brought up the subject of "rushing into a relationship" and asked Expert Emily's help on how to slow it down and prevent another heartache. Here's a tidbit of what she had to say.
"...sounds like you are jumping into a relationship quickly which creates a thrill for the begining but one heck of a heartbreak in the end. I encourage clients to take time getting to know one another, married couples never say "we should have gotten married earlier" On the contrary, many couples say that they wished that they had taken longer in their courtships.
I would recommend that you take time....enjoy taking time for relationships to develop. Something that is worth a lifetime is worth waiting for.....deep roots take time and grow strong.
Ok, take time...one date a week. Don't be too available....this doesn't mean that you are trying to "play games" but it means that you are giving the relationship time to develop naturally.
When you are all about a relationship, it is natural to want to go all in. However, this creates an unbalanced life where you have tunnel vision for dating but are unbalanced in friendships, work, and other priorities.
I'd like to recommend that you limit yourself in relationships at first because it is easy to fall in love with the idea of love and to miss out on experiencing the person right in front of you. I have worked with clients who got married and realized that they married a stranger.
Take your time to let love develope in your dating life."
Emily offers more helpful dating advice on her blog at Expert Emily's blog
Also, you can join in the expert led chats by going to "The Meeting Room" at Cache' Connections.
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