Tuesday, September 6, 2011
86% of American singles want to be married someday
I'm reading a great book by Candice Watters (Focus on the Family) titled "Get Married - What Women Can Do to Help it Happen. In her book, Candice points out some ways that women, men and the Church need to change their thinking about marriage and how to "marry well."
Marriage is a good thing - God created it! No one needs to be ashamed of this longing for companionship that God laid on your heart. Candice encourages women to be more outspoken about this desire to marry. One thing singles hear often is something like this: Just stop looking/wait on God/be content in your singleness. However, men especially are encouraged to find a wife in Proverbs 18:22:
"He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord." How do you find something? By proactively looking for it. Candice points out that "A majority of singles in the churches are in a state of transition, and they still need the support of the local church in marrying well."
She goes on to say, "Such support is not only practical, but biblical. The role of the body is to encourage young men and women - all those who aren't specially gifted for celibate service - toward marriage. That includes more than mere words. It means practical advice for marrying well. In Titus 2:4-5, Paul instructs the older women to teach the younger women how to live godly lives. Specifically, 'to love their husbands, to love their children, to be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands, so that the word of God will not be dishonored.' It only makes sense that if the young women are having trouble finding husbands in the first place, the older women have a vital rose to play in helping them marry well." CLICK HERE to read more and watch videos about this book and Candice Watters' ministry.
Hmmm ... where do we find these older women of the church who want to be matchmakers??
Tomorrow we will take a look at the calling to be single. Probably far too many singles are confused about this issue.