Wednesday, September 16, 2009

A note from a member


Dear Linda, Kim, staff, and members of Cache Connections,

I am writing this because I just read the comments from a unhappy and skeptical man. I too was once skeptical about dating sites but, sometimes we need to think outside of our comfort zones. When I say this I also mean our comfort zones of what we would classify as someone we would date. Thanks to Cache Connections and two faithfull friends I am involved in a relationship with a wonderful woman. But, the thing is I had to think outside the box and comfort zone. You see I typically dated women in my financial range and women who were 5'2"-5'5". When I met this wonderful woman at a Cache Connections event I was a bit leary. She was from a higher financial income then myself and she is 5'10". Both were out of my comfort zone but, I gave it a shot and am very glad I did. But, she also went out of her comfort zone. She typically dated men who are over 6' and 200lbs or more and in her income range. I am 5'11", 160lbs, and make less money then her. So, you see we all have to stop ourselves from limiting ourselves as to who we would give a second look at. She and I gave the other a chance and I can with all certainty say we are both happy and love one another. In the short while we have been dating I lost my job, her mother died, she found out that she is loosing her job, and other trials in life have occured but, with God at the center of our relationship we are still together and love one another. So, I simply ask to those who are discouraged about not meeting up with someone just yet. Are you being open minded and willing to step outside your comfort zone, are you praying about it, and are you putting God first in your relationship? Also, you must be patient.

4 comments:

Unknown said...

for those that can afford a bit of travel, I highly recommend thinking outside the box and contacting members outside of your area. I live in Michigan and was contacted by a wonderful lady that lives in Georgia over 2 months ago. We talk and pray together everyday and have figured out how to make a long distance relationship work. We currently fly to see each other one or two times a month and have hopes of a long future together. The key is to always keep Christ at the center of the relationship and for both people to continually give the relationship over to the Lord. Here's something to pray together throughout any dating relationship. "Lord you are the center of this relationship. We give it wholly and completely to you. We ask you to lead us both in this relationship, as we desire only your will in our lives. If for some reason this is not your desire for us protect our hearts Lord. We love You and place our full trust in You. Your will be done in our lives. Amen"

Anonymous said...

I totally agree with the message. Sometimes we're looking for that perfect person where we can check off everything on our "what we're looking for" list. Most likely that person doesn't exist & we're missing out. Step out there, take that risk, and date someone u would never have thought of dating. U never know what God has in store for u.

Anonymous said...

Thanks for posting the encouraging note, it has encouraged me. Keep up the great work.

Anonymous said...

for those that can afford a bit of travel, I highly recommend thinking outside the box and contacting members outside of your area. I live in Michigan and was contacted by a wonderful lady that lives in Georgia over 2 months ago. We talk and pray together everyday and have figured out how to make a long distance relationship work. We currently fly to see each other one or two times a month and have hopes of a long future together. The key is to always keep Christ at the center of the relationship and for both people to continually give the relationship over to the Lord. Here's something to pray together throughout any dating relationship. "Lord you are the center of this relationship. We give it wholly and completely to you. We ask you to lead us both in this relationship, as we desire only your will in our lives. If for some reason this is not your desire for us protect our hearts Lord. We love You and place our full trust in You. Your will be done in our lives. Amen"