tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1250191229620185700.comments2023-12-17T12:55:53.461-06:00CACHE' CONNECTIONS CHRISTIAN MATCHMAKINGKimhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11903219648063191835noreply@blogger.comBlogger245125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1250191229620185700.post-75788595120613850462012-03-06T00:17:43.396-06:002012-03-06T00:17:43.396-06:00Thank you for posting this Linda. It is powerfully...Thank you for posting this Linda. It is powerfully true what the author said about marriage. I'm into sports. I love basketball and am a recently retired NCAA referee. If was something that I LOVED and enjoyed but...MAN!It was hard work! Physically, keeping up with these young people on a basketball court+ outside training & workouts;studying and keeping up with all of the rules and time I had to spend away from family going to training clinics,etc. Marriage should be the same: the type of hard work that gives you such pleasure as to achieve love. If you really want it, (as I did want to become an NCAA official)the work can be inspiring and even fun. It WILL reward you with the intimate love that is your goal. (This gave me...A different perspective on the subject of "working" on a love relationship.)Zane-from North CarolinaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1250191229620185700.post-55067295012949749062012-01-19T06:21:45.004-06:002012-01-19T06:21:45.004-06:00Good morning, have not seen such a useful forum, t...Good morning, have not seen such a useful forum, this topic is rescued me. Thanks to the author))Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1250191229620185700.post-11711681186449486532011-12-29T18:43:34.147-06:002011-12-29T18:43:34.147-06:00"you have to be a friend to have a friend&quo..."you have to be a friend to have a friend". Stop the WIIFM (what's in it for me?) movement and start the "how can I help you?" REVOLUTION! It is very attractive!Jimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11956910517482474861noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1250191229620185700.post-82078944481291501552011-12-29T18:41:50.697-06:002011-12-29T18:41:50.697-06:00The best advice I can give anyone is to SERVE anot...The best advice I can give anyone is to SERVE another and meet their needs first. I tell my children "you have to be a friend to have friends". Stop the WIIFM (what's in it for me) and start the How can I help revolution. It is VERY attractive!Jimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11956910517482474861noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1250191229620185700.post-56347305190811800152011-12-12T06:49:33.375-06:002011-12-12T06:49:33.375-06:00Thank you dear Kim. Lovely, just lovely. And I c...Thank you dear Kim. Lovely, just lovely. And I concur with your wish for me!Lindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18167970442600769396noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1250191229620185700.post-73285853194445918012011-12-07T19:13:56.245-06:002011-12-07T19:13:56.245-06:00It was a wonderful time of fellowship @ Willow Cre...It was a wonderful time of fellowship @ Willow Creek! Yes, you should do more live events as they're always fun and interesting! There's 'couples only' events, so why shouldn't there be 'singles only' events? =] <br /><br />Blessings,<br /><br />LJAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1250191229620185700.post-27273817022955888132011-12-07T09:02:38.167-06:002011-12-07T09:02:38.167-06:00Being with married couples doesn't bother me, ...Being with married couples doesn't bother me, unless I am the only single. It kind of draws the singles together naturally, whereas when it is all singles, it feels like you are competing with everyone else, which you are.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1250191229620185700.post-74270198979688535262011-12-01T22:57:57.425-06:002011-12-01T22:57:57.425-06:00Thank you for your wonderful conclusion, Linda: &q...Thank you for your wonderful conclusion, Linda: "There's a difference between saying hello and being a pursuer". I agree. Just as when a person is in front of me, I will NOT ignore that person, it's the same on-line....just saying "hello" and making friends. I really have a hard time understanding why christian men and women think it's any different on-line.<br />Enza, IlAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1250191229620185700.post-52064295545361643632011-12-01T15:13:38.154-06:002011-12-01T15:13:38.154-06:00It seems that many Christian women want to be purs...It seems that many Christian women want to be pursued, but they only want to be pursued by men that they have decided that they are interested in. Men often don't know that you are interested and don't want to be rejected or treated like stalkers. Let them know that you are interested by turning on the charm and flirting with them. Most men are not mind-readers and don't pick up on subtle clues, so you have to be bold. Then it's up to the guy. If he doesn't respond, then he isn't interested, so you should move on to someone else. If you are on-line, it doesn't matter who sends out the first "hi, how are you?" message. If there is no response, then the person probably isn't interested, so move on. Men will usually do the pursuing if they are interested and know that you are interested. Why would a man want to pursue a woman if he thinks he might be treated like a stalker for contacting her?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1250191229620185700.post-33982867807858049862011-11-23T16:31:38.658-06:002011-11-23T16:31:38.658-06:00My 20 cents:
In today's heavy technology-driv...My 20 cents:<br /><br />In today's heavy technology-driven, split-second society, pleasantries and formalities are often relegated to the back seat. Before you know it, proposals and wedding vows will be via "text":<br /><br />U?<br />ME?<br />OK!<br /><br />Get "used to it"? Sure.<br />"Move on"? Obviously.<br /><br />*Despite* the latest inventions and gadgets, let us not lose touch with our humanity. Kudos to those of you who DO take the time to respond in kind even if there is not a mutual interest. It says a lot about your character and you should be commended. Finally, as the Bible says, we should remember to do unto others as we would have them to do unto us.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1250191229620185700.post-80834148342614382712011-11-22T11:17:20.240-06:002011-11-22T11:17:20.240-06:00Just get used to it and move on if people don'...Just get used to it and move on if people don't reply. It's not worth stewing over. If the person has read the message and doesn't reply, you can pretty well assume that they are not interested. If they haven't read the message, they may not be interested, or it could be something else. If you reply to someone and say you aren't interested, they will be left wondering why, and if you say why (not attracted, too old, not educated enough, you don't have a job, etc.), it could be hurtful to them. Just get used to the fact that you won't get responses from some people, and move on.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1250191229620185700.post-24546839967567148282011-11-10T01:27:09.650-06:002011-11-10T01:27:09.650-06:00Hey everyone, I am a brand-new poster on this bull...Hey everyone, I am a brand-new poster on this bulletin board so I would say I ought to tell you a few things about myself. Umm, I'm 28 years of age, a woman, and I study politics at my college. I certainly look forward conversing with all you older members... Farewell for nowAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1250191229620185700.post-44304060400334375382011-11-01T13:55:45.309-05:002011-11-01T13:55:45.309-05:00I would like to offer the male point of view. I d...I would like to offer the male point of view. I don't think that there is a standard answer that covers every situation. Yes, we do like to be in control of things, but, if I already have a friendship with a woman, moving to a relationship can be tricky. If one of us is not interested in a relationship and just wants a friendship, what happens to the friendship when he/she expresses interest in a relationship? I do believe that a woman should subtlely let a guy know that she is interested (flirting, touching, etc.), whether it occurs earlier or later. That way a guy can decide if he wants to make his move. If he doesn't make a move, the woman can look elsewhere for a relationship, and the friendship can continue. If he does make a move, he can be assured that she will be interested.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1250191229620185700.post-22469599314851423502011-10-28T11:54:14.666-05:002011-10-28T11:54:14.666-05:00I agree with you Anonymous (IL). Frustrating as i...I agree with you Anonymous (IL). Frustrating as it is, we can only try to lead the "horse" to the water. From there, he'll have to decide if he wants to drink or not. We must resist the urge to give his head a nudge!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1250191229620185700.post-7447440859756525042011-10-27T20:46:27.493-05:002011-10-27T20:46:27.493-05:00Woooowww!!! Amazing! Right on target!
I've fou...Woooowww!!! Amazing! Right on target!<br />I've found myself in the same dilemma. Do I let him know I'm interested? or do I wait on God? hmmmmm..Both are very good points. As an independent, fearless woman, I've taken this route in the past, of letting the guy know my true feelings...and guess what? I blew it! I've come to understand the hard way that I shouldn't take things into my own hands, but should TRUST in the Lord, and let the man lead the way and wait on him to make the first move. Although men say they don't mind the woman making the first move, in reality they can't love what they haven't conquered!!!<br /><br />Female, 40+, ILAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1250191229620185700.post-2174502740918120452011-10-20T21:16:40.555-05:002011-10-20T21:16:40.555-05:00I really needed to be reminded just how much God l...I really needed to be reminded just how much God loves me and that He don't make junk! <br /><br />I was alittle off balance today. I was hoping for a different outcome from a connection on Cache' Connections, but the response was very, very nicely put but it was a no.<br /><br />Still, this article reminds not to slip back into my old habit of allowing how others "rate me" to show me how much I should be loved. It is so important to love yourself in a Godly way, appreciate yourself as His amazing handy work and don't ever let anything or anyone influence differently. <br /><br />Thanks for this post, it came just when I needed it.<br /><br />Blessings,<br /><br />Dee Dee Smith<br />Romans 8:28-29Dee Dee Smithnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1250191229620185700.post-53226168328811716152011-10-02T13:55:57.604-05:002011-10-02T13:55:57.604-05:00I would like to thankyou for such an enlightenin...I would like to thankyou for such an enlightening post. I dont by and large reply on blogs as I wish to lurk and read. However your style of literature is uncomplicated to understand, I love the fact that it is clear and to the point. I will make sure that I mail your blog to my acquaintances as I am certain they will not only like reading your post but also find it extremely instructive.<br /> Acheter vimax en France.2011AVEFAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1250191229620185700.post-45486715913287639882011-10-01T04:14:56.172-05:002011-10-01T04:14:56.172-05:00brinkka2011 says: Remarkably! Thanks!brinkka2011 says: Remarkably! Thanks!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1250191229620185700.post-53392095558770751002011-09-28T21:35:47.640-05:002011-09-28T21:35:47.640-05:00brinkka2011 says: Remarkably! Thanks!brinkka2011 says: Remarkably! Thanks!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1250191229620185700.post-38835305866953984112011-09-28T09:45:06.319-05:002011-09-28T09:45:06.319-05:00Great wisdom from a great man. Dr. James Dobson...Great wisdom from a great man. Dr. James Dobson's books and radio broadcasts are tremendous resources on parenting, family matters, marriage, and the psychology of people in general. He is absolutely right on all ten points, although some Christians might argue some of his points, especially Item 4. The problem in society today is that attraction is emphasized, and true sacrificial and other-focused love is ignored. It is true that romantic love does start with attraction, but sacrificial love is necessary to sustain a relationship. Without attraction, it would only be a friendship, but without sacrificial love, a relationship is much more likely to fail.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1250191229620185700.post-81433974518998648712011-09-24T10:26:23.961-05:002011-09-24T10:26:23.961-05:00brinkka2011 says: Thank you for giving these good,...brinkka2011 says: Thank you for giving these good, healthy, explanatory and even fun tips on that topic.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1250191229620185700.post-87649414401760495182011-09-22T16:47:57.448-05:002011-09-22T16:47:57.448-05:00brinkka2011 says: Ive been meaning to read this an...brinkka2011 says: Ive been meaning to read this and just never got a chance. Its an issue that Im very interested in, I just started reading and Im glad I did. Youre a wonderful blogger, 1 of the most effective that Ive seen. This weblog undoubtedly has some facts on topic that I just wasnt aware of. Thanks for bringing this stuff to light.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1250191229620185700.post-6870419888515666882011-09-19T16:46:39.627-05:002011-09-19T16:46:39.627-05:00From a single 40-something who feels it must be sa...From a single 40-something who feels it must be said on behalf of all single 40-somethings:<br /><br />What I've found to be trying is my family (particularly my mother) mournfully, repetitively expressing the desire that I be married. As if it didn't take me years to *finally* get to the point of accepting my singlehood and learning to content and thankful with where I am (as opposed to where I'd like to be or where I thought I should have been), I now get to hear all of the burdenous pity talk as each year passes. I'm sure it's the deepest desire of most mothers to have grandkids and a son (or daughter) in-law, however, please don't heap your sorrow, angst, longing on your children. We have enough to contend with in this life. Simply be thankful that you have healthy, employed, God-fearing, Bible-believing children and leave it up to God. Cast your burdens upon HIM and NOT your children. Thank you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1250191229620185700.post-51744681553000187752011-09-14T20:54:54.191-05:002011-09-14T20:54:54.191-05:00brinkka2011 says: Would love to perpetually get ...brinkka2011 says: Would love to perpetually get updated outstanding web blog ! .Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1250191229620185700.post-79641775209287632272011-09-13T01:27:45.276-05:002011-09-13T01:27:45.276-05:00brinkka2011 says: Love your post . Reallybrinkka2011 says: Love your post . ReallyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com